Three things..

While writing this essay for a friend, about me actually, it struck me how true it actually is..so I decided to post it here.. So here goes..

Three things I would like to change about myself, and why?

Being a critic has always been an easy job, when it comes to pointing out where the other person’s mistake lies. It’s easier when there is no speculation you have to make or u don’t have to be diplomatic in any sense. But when it comes to picking on your self for a change, finding faults in one’s own self and trying to criticize it, I think is a harder task.

Well I just wanted to see how good I am at it. First of all, is the process of sitting down and thinking what I don’t like about me? Why wouldn’t I like myself? I do, in every which way possible. But thinking deep down inside, I would probably want to change, the way I think about things, the way I react to things and the way I do certain things. Hey that’s pretty much what I do in all!! I do hear you saying that. But let me explain.

I would probably want to change, the way I think about people when it comes to judging them. I should probably wait till I know them really well. As a person, as a friend or generally as human being, before I start judging them. I think I make those decisions pretty quickly and end up trusting the wrong kind of people and mistrusting the right ones. So I should probably try and change that way of thinking.

Second of all, I would probably want to change the way I react to things. I came across this great email a couple of days back, which generally gave me a drift, as to way I probably should be reacting to things. This email stated that 10 percent of things that happen in my life happen without my control. It could be a power failure, a vehicle breakdown, or a phone line that goes down unexpectedly. But 90 percent of the things that happen to me happen only due to the way I react to things. Just the way I react to any problem, be it big or small, early in the morning, decides how the rest of my day is going to be. If I decide to spoil my mood early in the morning, screaming at people and cursing all the way, that’s how it is going to be for the rest of the day, isn’t it? Therefore, affecting the rest of my day. So in a way, I influence how my day is going to be, by reacting or not reacting to a bad or good situation, at any point of time. There’s no use crying over spilt milk, is there?

Third of all, if there is something I would really like to change, it’s the way I do things. Most of the time, I try to do something, I find myself saying I don’t have time. Though whether I have or don’t have time, depends on the thing I want to do. One thing I know I know I haven’t been doing is giving time to people who actually need it. I find time to spend with my friends, that I should say happens most of the time, my family too, which I do whenever I find time. But one thing I haven’t been doing is spending time for people who need it. I am not talking about charity here. I know a lot of people considering spending money for charity to be a large-hearted gesture, I have thought so too sometimes. But come to think of it, or even after the experiences I have had, I sure don’t think so. I think spending time is more important and is by far, more large-hearted than anything else. Because, I think all the people who live in the downs, orphans and homeless people, the money that you give, would probably take them through that one day, maybe even a month, or a year at the maximum. But the time you spend with these people stays alive in their hearts forever. Rather than spending money in large bags or getting them stuff to eat or clothe, spending time is much more important, because it makes a big difference, if not for you, it does for them. So I should probably change the way I spend or waste time, thinking I am being charitable and actually work to help these people and be charitable for a change.

Well there you go! I did find three things, I actually think I should change. But I have to accept it, I am a normal human being, I might not be able to change all these right away, maybe not even be able to accept them as faults after all. To err is human isn’t it? But I know, if not today, I should try and change these things, for my own betterment. I think so.

What say you ?!